Denise Van Outen opened up on her fears for her daughter Betsy last week as she admitted she’s turned to therapy to cope with her split from Eddie Boxshall.
And a parenting expert has told OK! that while Denise is clearly hurting, she is right to be worried about her daughter as the impact of the break-up on her “shouldn’t be underestimated”.
Denise said of the impact of the split on Betsy: “Kids have phones now, and they’re in school where they’re going to read things and hear things, so I did have to be completely honest with her. There are still things I probably haven’t told her or I’ve held back,”
She continued about the breakdown of her seven-year relationship with Eddie, which ended in January.
“There have been moments where I’ve been really upset, and you don’t want your child to see you upset because it’s a horrible thing, but at the same time, she does need to know.”
Denise, who split from Betsy’s dad Lee Mead in 2013, added, “My worry is that I don’t want her growing up thinking that all relationships fail.
“As a parent, I feel like my responsibility is to guide her through life, and I feel like I’m worried that’s going to happen – that she’s going to think that things go wrong, or she’s going to go into relationships when she’s older perhaps not with an open heart – and that’s what I don’t want to happen. That’s where it’s tricky.”
Parenting expert Kalini Kent has told OK! that the breakdown of a relationship can, understandably, be “devastating” for a child.
Kalini, a families, youth and confidence coach, said, “When children find out that their parents/step-parents are divorcing or separating, they are often unprepared.
Even though there may have been 'signs', the reality can be quite devastating, especially as it is something that is out of their control.”
She added of Denise’s situation in particular, “Children can experience a range of emotions including sadness, loneliness and confusion at this time, and while Betsy may have a stable relationship with her mother, she’ll be missing Eddie, who is no longer present – the conversations they had, the things they used to do together.
"So it is like a loss or bereavement, and the impact of this must not be underestimated.”
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During Fearne Cotton’s Happy Place podcast, Denise revealed she has had to seek extra support to get over the split.
“I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed, but I am getting there,” she candidly admitted. “I’m also, for the first time in my life, doing therapy.”
Denise announced she and Eddie, 46, were parting ways earlier this year after it emerged he had been messaging other women. Denise also found questionable photographs on Eddie’s iPad. He has firmly denied physically cheating on her.
But the TV presenter is picking herself back up after the heartache. Admitting she has downloaded a dating app, she said, “I’m getting there. I’ll be ready soon, I just don’t know if I’m ready to swipe just yet.”
But our source says that Denise wants her next relationship to be the real deal.
“She really wants love,” they said. “She wants somebody who will understand show business, but she is just a normal girl and she wants a normal bloke.”
They added, “She wants to find The One.”
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