Lesbian desperate for 'miracle' baby plans to carry her girlfriend's child… but they'll need to raise £5,500 for IVF

Sian Faye, 27, and her partner Bianca Johnson, 28, from Folkestone, Kent, would like a child together as a sibling for nine-year-old Elsie-Mai, who is Sian's daughter from a previous relationship.

After extensive research, the pair discovered reciprocal IVF "egg sharing", where one partner provides the eggs and the other partner carries the pregnancy.

The couple, who have been together for two years after meeting in a gym, will also use a sperm donor.

Sian, a nurse, said: "We have talked a lot about having a baby together, a brother or sister for Elsie-Mai, who is so excited about the idea.

"In a way, she’s the one who planted the idea in our heads as she kept telling us how much she wanted a sibling.

"However, this isn't the most straight forward process in the world being both women. We started discussing different treatment options available about a year ago, and decided that now is the time."

The little known process is becoming increasingly popular and the couple say they want to raise awareness of the options for same-sex couples.

Bianca explained: "We have done a lot of research into reciprocal IVF and our dream is to begin the process of 'egg sharing', so that our baby is a part of both of us.

"The success rates are quite high for women under 30, which is why we thought, 'Right, let’s do it now!'

"Many different clinics offer this treatment, but it involves lots of tests and scans, so the procedure comes at a large cost.

"We have started saving, but we hope the fundraising page will help us on our way.

"We are lucky to have a strong family unit, however to complete our puzzle we need that little extra help."

The couple admitted that the decision to fundraise was not an easy one.

"We gave it lots of thought and consideration because it's like sharing your private life with the world," Sian said.

"It's never easy asking for help, but we think of this as a kind request of help towards our dream of having a mini Sian-and-Bea."

Just a few weeks ago, Elsie-Mai wrote in her own words: "I really hope that my two mums reach their target, it is a lot of money to raise for IVF treatment, and I will love and enjoy having a sibling. I love my mums lots."

The pair have already organised a number of fundraising events, including a Spinathon, Zumbathon and boot fairs in just six weeks.

And while fitness instructor Bianca is spearheading the fundraising ideas, the couple have now reached out for help to hit their target of £5,500.

What is reciprocal IVF and how does it work?

Advanced reproductive technologies now provide greater options for two women who wish to have a child together.

Reciprocal IVF, sometimes called partner IVF, is a variation of the in vitro fertilization (IVF) process, where one partner assumes the role of the egg donor and the other the role of the gestational carrier.

Partner one undergoes the egg retrieval process and those eggs are fertilised using donor sperm.

Embryos are selected and then transferred into the uterus of partner two, who carries the pregnancy if the embryos implant successfully.

Splitting the IVF process into two distinct parts allows both women to participate in the conception and birth of a child, alongside a known or anonymous sperm donor.

Bianca said: "We are now up to £2,600 and we only launched our appeal a few weeks ago.

"We are so grateful to everyone who has supported us already. We really have been overwhelmed by people’s generosity.

"To everyone who has helped us so far, thank you from the bottom of our hearts."

To support Sian and Bianca's Dream Baby fundraiser, visit their crowdfunding page here.


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Earlier this month Lisa Riley warned women not to buy into false hope of IVF offered abroad after discovering she is unlikely to get pregnant.

In March we told how IVF gave these five women babies – and new best friends – after they met in an online fertility forum.

We also reported how a couple who were refused NHS IVF treatment turned to a £10k loan – but will now have to pay back £24k.

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