My new partner’s intolerance of my five-year-old’s needs is driving us apart – The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: I FEEL my partner’s intolerance is driving us apart. He keeps saying: “You need to sort your son out, he’s constantly needing attention.”

But he’s only five – so of course he calls for me if he wakes in the night.

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We’ve been together two years, after my marriage broke down. He’s 41 and I’m 32. My son goes to his dad’s at weekends so we have those to ourselves.

But lately my partner has been so intolerant and keeps making comments around my son like: “I’m not putting up with this much longer.” My son hears and is clearly upset.

My son isn’t a difficult child but my partner goes mad if he wakes me in the night because that wakes him up and he has work the next day. But I work full time too and I think the way he overreacts is utterly selfish.

It’s pushing me away and I don’t know what to do to make all this better.

DEIDRE SAYS: Being around someone with so little tolerance is damaging for your son.

Be firm that your partner will have to leave unless he gets help to change his attitude. You can find support through Family Lives (, 0808 800 2222).

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