My partner has a wicked alter-ego. She’s loud, domineering and very scary. I never know when Ms X (as she likes to call her) will make an appearance.

One minute my girl is quiet and normal, then the next she’s in a leather catsuit and is ordering me all over the bedroom.

I used to love it when Ms X charged in. It used to be playful and fun. I loved the thrill of the unknown.

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I never knew what she was going to scoop out of her sex toy box or get me to do next.

I’d polish her whips and lick her high heels. We used to have a blast and my mates were as envious as heck.

But these days Ms X isn’t very nice at all. I find myself being more humiliated than titivated.

The other night she had me tied to the bed for hours while she tickled and spanked me – and it wasn’t nice.

The other thing I’m struggling to come to terms with is the

verbal stuff. Just recently she’s started taunting me with tales about sex with other men.

She claims that she’s cheated on me throughout our relationship. She describes the filthy encounters she has behind my back with everyone from her boss to complete strangers. The attention to detail is terrifying.

Last week she told me a tale about going to a private party with a male colleague where she wore nothing but a lace thong and had sex with men in masks.

I don’t know if this is true or not. Is the mental torture all part of the game or is she being serious?

JANE SAYS: If these sex games are no longer fun, your girl needs to hear that you insist on calling time.

Clearly a line is now being crossed. You and she have gone from flirty, cheeky japes to pain and humiliation.

That might be okay for some people, but if it isn’t okay for you, then you’re entitled to speak out.

Insist on a sober, sensible conversation during the cold light of day.

Tell her to leave Ms X in the dressing-up box while you and she discuss the future of your relationship.

Can’t she see the pain and discomfort in your eyes? Does she accept that things have gone too far and that a fresh start is needed?

As for the stories about sex with other people, what’s all that about? Are these stories true? Has she cheated on you throughout the whole of your relationship?

Can she tell you why? And why does she think you would be fine with that?

I get the impression of a partner who has become carried away with herself.

Sadly, if you’re no longer enough for her, then is this where you both have to say goodbye?

Believe in yourself and don’t allow anyone to push you around or make you feel inadequate or ridiculous.

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