Woman whose son was stillborn warns others to 'always trust instincts'

Woman whose son was stillborn at 31 weeks warns other expectant mothers to ‘always trust their instincts’ after not going to hospital immediately when her baby stopped moving

  • Chloe Holland, of Wigan, Manchester, felt her baby stop moving on November 2
  • The 21-year-old did her best not to worry but days later checked into hospital 
  • Her worst fears were confirmed and she was told her baby had no heartbeat 

A young mother has warned other expectant parents to ‘always trust their instincts’ after losing her unborn son at 31 weeks pregnant.

Chloe Holland, 21, from Wigan, Manchester, said she instinctively knew something was terribly wrong with her son, Parker Ohmes, when he stopped moving in her womb on November 2.

The first time mother said she tried her best not to worry but after four days of no movement, on November 5, she decided to visit her local hospital.

Chloe and her fiance, Stuart Ohmes, 23, were heartbroken when their worst fears were confirmed – that their baby had no heartbeat.

Three days later, Chloe gave birth to Parker naturally and the new parents spent two days in hospital with their stillborn son before saying their final goodbyes.

Chloe Holland (pictured with her baby), 21, of Wigan, Manchester, has warned other expectant parents to ‘always trust their instincts’ after losing her unborn son at 31 weeks pregnant

Chloe (pictured with her fiance, Stuart Ohmes, 23, and their son) said she instinctively knew something was terribly wrong with her son, Parker, when he stopped moving in her womb on November 2

The young couple are now bravely sharing their story in a bid to warn other expectant parents not to ignore any warning signs. 

Chloe explained: ‘I loved being pregnant and it was all perfect and completely normal. The midwives were happy with Parker’s growth and at every scan he appeared to have a healthy heartbeat.

‘But at 31 weeks pregnant he stopped moving. I first noticed he wasn’t moving when I had a shower as he always moved in there. I was really worried but I tried not to panic and hoped he had just moved position or was being a bit lazy.

She continued: ‘I wish I’d trusted my instincts but it’s not known if acting earlier would have saved his life. I just hope other women reading my story don’t ignore any warning signs during pregnancy and count the kicks.’

Chloe and Stuart were able to spend two days with Parker thanks to a cold cot – a cooling mattress that stops babies’ bodies deteriorating.

The first time mother (pictured when pregnant) said she tried her best not to worry but after four days of no movement, on November 5, she decided to visit her local hospital

During this time the couple were able to have photos with their baby as well as keepsake foot prints.

Chloe added: ‘It was awful having to say goodbye but we were grateful for the time we got to spend with our baby.

‘The worst part was leaving the hospital without Parker, especially as so many other parents were leaving the same ward with their babies.

‘I started to think “why us?” “why me?” but hopefully we’ll have some answers once we have his postmortem back in 12 weeks time.

‘Parker was fully developed and had no visible issues, I’ve even had some blood tests to check it wasn’t my body that caused the pregnancy to end at 31 weeks.’

Chloe and her fiance, Stuart (pictured together) were heartbroken when their worst fears were confirmed – that their baby had no heartbeat

Three days later, Chloe gave birth to Parker (pictured with his father) naturally and the new parents spent two days in hospital with their stillborn son before saying their final goodbyes

Chloe and Stuart held a funeral for Parker on November 21 and decided to share their story online.

‘We decided to share images of Parker online as we wanted to let people know what had happened,’ Chloe said.

‘So far we’ve only received positive comments from people for sharing our ordeal and some have said that similar things also happened to them. I think it’s important for us to share our story as it could help save lives.

‘Parents should always trust their instincts and tracking movement changes is really important.’

Chloe is now backing the Kicks Count campaign which highlights the importance of noticing if your baby’s kicks decrease in a bid to save lives. 

Elizabeth Hutton, Chief Executive, at Kicks Count, said: ‘We aim to reduce the UK’s high stillbirth and neonatal death rate by raising awareness of baby movements.

‘Over half of mothers who had a stillbirth noticed their baby’s movements had slowed down beforehand.

‘While there isn’t one cause of stillbirth, a decrease in fetal movement can be a key warning sign that a baby is in distress and early delivery could save nearly a third of stillborn babies.’ 

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