I’m a mum-of-three who teaches my kids to swear and they don’t have bedtimes – parents with obedient kids are just lazy | The Sun

A MUM-OF-THREE who doesn't believe in strict bedtimes and teaches her kids to swear has revealed she thinks it's "lazy" to raise obedient children.

Luana Ribeira believes children should be taught to think for themselves.


Her children, Seren, 13, Electra, 12 and even tot Ceyln, one, decide their own bedtimes and have an array of colourful words in their vocabularies.

The 41 year-old thinks kids should be able to think for themselves – and her parenting style does just this.

Luana encourages her little ones to express their emotions in their own words , even if it means the language is vulgar.

The PR company founder admitted that not everyone agrees with her approach.

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Critics of her parenting have dubbed Seren, Electra and Celyn "free-range."

Luana, from Anglesey, of North Wales, told NeedToKnow.Online: "I believe that raising obedient children is lazy and we should be raising them to have their own mind.

"To question the world around them and not just blindly accept what they're told.

"I don't really pay attention to what other people are saying, as it's none of my business.

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"But my kids have been called 'wild' or 'rebellious' before.

'I've also had my eldest compared to Wednesday Addams, but this doesn't bother me.

"It really tickles me, but I guess it's because I give them freedom and let them make their own choices.

"I'm very happy to be raising kids that are wild and can think for themselves."

Her offspring can often be heard cursing when playing video games or if they have injured themselves.

Luana refuses to scold her children for the language they choose to express their emotions.

She explained: "What I teach them is that it's not the swear word that's 'bad' but the intention behind it.

"For example, if they stubbed their toe and a swear word slipped out, I ask if they're OK.

"If they're playing a video game and an expletive jumps out of their mouth, as they're full of adrenaline trying to win the game, then it means nothing to me.

"However, if they were to use the same word with vicious intent or were calling someone names, I would pull them up on it.

"This has never happened though, so they understand the difference.

"My kids also understand that while I'm not offended by it, some people are and they know not to swear in school or around certain people, such as family members."


At age five, her eldest Seren used the F-word innocently after attempting to say the word "duck".

Since then, the family have treated the censored language as second nature.

Alongside swearing, Luana's kids don't have bedtimes, including her one-year-old.

She said: "They don't have a bedtime and I let them stay up as late as they'd like, as I'd rather they wait until showing signs of being tired.

"On a school night, they go to bed at around 10pm and tend to stay up later on weekends or school holidays, which can be closer to midnight.

"I let them stay up and deal with the consequences of how they feel the next day."

Now, she has expressed the reasoning behind her approach in a bid to promote being "kinder" to kids.

Luana added: "I'm strongly against making a child behave in a certain way through fear.

"I would prefer to allow my kids to do what they want, as long as they're not in a dangerous situation.

"This way, they don't hide anything from me and I always know what's going on with them.

"I want them to know they can come to me with anything that's on their mind, without being judged or told off.

"It would be easy for me to threaten and shout to get them to behave the way I want, to mould them into 'perfect' children who never do wrong.

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"But it wouldn't be them, they would just be following orders.

"Kids are smarter than we often give them credit for."

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