DEAR DEIDRE: DUE to our constant rows, my boyfriend is adamant he wants to go on a no-contact break for a few weeks.

I’m a 23-year-old gay man, he is 26 and we’ve been together for almost five years.

He gets anxious and stressed when we argue every couple of days over the most trivial things, such as the dishwasher not being emptied, the bins not being taken out and the general untidiness in our flat.

If pushed too far, in the heat of the moment I hurl the nastiest insults.

The more we argue, the worse the insults become.

I don’t mean what I say.

I realise that my parents were constantly at each other’s throats and I’m copying their behaviour.

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DEIDRE SAYS:  It does sound as though you react in the heat of the moment without thinking about the consequences.

Your behaviour is abusive, but you can change. My support pack Managing Anger explains self-help techniques.

Your boyfriend may be unsure if your relationship has a future.

But if he’s adamant about a break, give him the time he’s asking for.

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