DEAR DEIDRE: I FEEL alive when I think about a woman I talk to online, even though we have never even met.
I’m 39 and married. My wife’s 36 and we’ve been together for six years, with the usual ups and downs.
We got together after my first wife cheated.
This second marriage is more of a friendship and we haven’t been intimate for almost two years.
But I felt a new lease of life when I found friendship online with a woman I now adore.
We haven’t met but we enjoy video conversations every day.
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I feel guilty as I don’t want to hurt my wife.
She’s loyal and hasn’t done anything wrong, but there’s no longer a spark between us.
At the same time, I can’t stop thinking about this other woman.
I’m worried that if I break it off with her she’ll expose our affair.
If I were to leave my wife it would hurt her so much.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Fear is no reason to stay in the virtual relationship.
Tell this woman she knew you were married and she’ll gain nothing by trying to wreck your home life.
Be firm and she may accept that it’s hopeless.
Whether you confess what you have been up to or not, tell your wife you realise you have been neglecting the relationship and see if you can get some excitement back into your marriage.
If not, it would be fairer to end it than to keep cheating on her. My support pack Saving Your Sex Life will help.
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