I refuse to have my daughter's half-sister for Christmas even though her mum's dying – her dad said I'm selfish | The Sun

A WOMAN refused to have her daughter's half-sister join them for Christmas, even though her mum was dying.

The mum explained that she had a 13-year-old daughter with her ex-husband, but after they divorced he remarried and now had a five-year-old.

She said she wouldn't feel comfortable hosting the five-year-old with her family despite the circumstances.

Taking to Reddit, she explained: "His daughter would spend time with my daughter regularly. They adore each other but she doesn't come to my house and they rarely meet up there.

"His wife has been diagnosed with cancer and has started treatment recently.

"The other day he came to drop our daughter off and asked to speak to me.

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"He talked about his wife's circumstances then how his family won't be able to have a Christmas celebration this year.

"He said it wasn't fair for his daughter and asked if I could 'include' her in my family's celebration.

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"He pointed out how the girls will have a great time together bonding and making memories, but I said I was sorry but my family's traditional celebration is a sacred thing and I do not feel comfortable including anyone else.

"Plus it'd be awkward having her in my home. He said that his daughter may not be family to me but she sure is to her half-sister.

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"He asked me to stop and 'think' about what's best for the kids here. I suggested he take his daughter to spend Christmas with her grandparents and tried to cut the conversation short but he stopped me and started going on about how cruel it was for me to decline to include his daughter who's already having a hard time adjusting.

"I saw that he was beginning to cry so I stepped back and said I was no longer feeling comfortable having this conversation.

"I asked him to leave and he did but still texted me asking me to agree to let his daughter come spend Christmas even offered that he stays away if that'll make me less uncomfortable, I said no and now he's calling me selfish and unfeeling."

Fellow Redditors were quick to jump in with their thoughts on the situation.

One person said: "She’s f***ing five, she’s gonna make an entire family of grown adults uncomfortable? Embarrassing.

"It sounds like y’all are just looking for an excuse to say no."

Another said: "You're well within your rights to refuse. You don't owe your spouse anything. It's your holiday and you can celebrate it however you want.

"BUT you are still [an a******] here. This child has a sick parent, she's only five, and you have the chance to show kindness and embrace the true spirit of Christmas.

"Instead, you're choosing to be a hard-nose about it, and in so doing, making a lot of people's lives bleaker at a time when you could be making them brighter and more hopeful."

A third said: "I have a half sister from my dad and I would hope my mom would include her in our celebrations if she was facing similar circumstances and wanted to be included."

But not everyone agreed that the woman was in the wrong.

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One person said: "That child doesn’t know you or your extended family, only your daughter.

"This could be her last Christmas with her mom and he’s wanting to take that away from her. Even if it’s just the three of them in pyjamas eating cookies all day."

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