A NEW mum has confessed being a parent was all it cracked up to be, claiming she even feels regret.
The new parent says she misses having time to herself and watching Netflix.
Talking to Mumsnet, the new mum shared her experiences of early motherhood.
The user said her child was 10 months old and she was starting to feel regret.
She said: “I love her more than anything in the world. I constantly worry about something bad happening to her. She is a lovely, bright, happy, sweet, and quite independent child. But I just can’t shake the feeling that I regret having her.”
The new mum said she missed her old life before having kids, especially having alone time and watching Netflix.
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She said: “I just want to go back to my old life. I had a quiet, peaceful, unexciting life, and that’s what I like. I’m a very introverted, self-contained person and I was always happy just being by myself, working from home, watching Netflix in the evenings, enjoying nature, having dinner out now and again. Maybe a holiday once in a while.”
The mum realised she has come to the conclusion that she just doesn’t like parenting.
She said: “Obviously all that is gone now, and I don’t like it. I don’t like parenting. I think it’s mainly the constant sense of responsibility, constantly having to entertain a baby, never being able to just sit and relax and do nothing all day, always having to be on alert.”
The mum said she hoped things would get better for her as her child got older.
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She said: “I know having an older child will bring its own difficulties, but I’m wondering if I’ll enjoy it more once I can reason with her a bit and she can entertain herself more?? Or will I always regret the loss of my old life?”
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The mum said she was reaching out to asking if other parents also had the feeling of regret after having children.
Many Mumsnet users sympathised with the new mum and applauded her for her honesty.
One user said: “It gets better! I found the baby age mind numbing because you are constantly on alert but never really doing anything YOU want to. Once you don't have to watch every single thing they do, and they actually want to do quite fun things with you, it definitely gets better.”
“Don't get me wrong, long boozy brunches are a thing of the past, but you get much more of yourself back once they get to school age.”
Another said: “I don't think it's so much the baby as the grieving for your old life. I felt all those things you do and I was an older mum who liked my lazy a** ways.”
“When I had my second, my baby was just as tricky on paper, but I was no longer grieving my old life so it's waaaay easier.”
Other were shocked at the mums confession and said they could not understand where she was coming from
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One user said: “Oh dear. Perhaps if you try to remember why on earth you decided to have a child it might help? You must have felt you were gaining something?”
Another said “Probably get hate, but actually I find my 11 month old so much fun. I wish I could be a stay at home mum but can't afford it. Sorry motherhood is not hitting the mark for you.”
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