A 33-year-old dad says his wife got very upset when she asked him not to go on a boy’s holiday.

The reason? She was struggling with their five-month-old baby, who was going through a period of sleep regression.

The dad asked publicly if he was in the wrong after sharing that initially, his wife was fine with the plans, so he arranged a 12-person group trip that would see them golfing and staying in an Airbnb rental for three days.

Taking to Reddit he shared: ‘Fast forward to five months later, a couple of weeks before the trip. Our son was in the midst of a sleep regression and he was waking up several times each night. My wife still breastfed him and he would not accept me when he’d wake up upset. As a result, she was left doing all of the tending to him during the nights.’

At her wits end, the mum asked him to cancel his trip, which led to an argument.

‘One day she approached me and said she didn’t want me to go anymore and that I needed to stay home because she was afraid it would be too much for her alone,’ he said.

But he decided to continue the trip regardless.

While away, his wife called him and sounded upset. When he returned he shared that although they had reconciled, it was obvious what her stance was on the situation.

The commenters shared their own advice and to our surprise, many stood by his actions and said he was right to leave his wife behind.

One said: ‘She can put the kid in bed with her and breastfeed the baby there. Then she can nap throughout the day. What happens if the husband was on a business trip?’

Another added: ‘The situation is unfortunate, but single parents manage to survive without a partner all the time, one week is not the end of the world. People seem to be forgetting that here.’

One tried to barter saying: ‘Could no one come to stay with her? I feel like there’s a middle-ground option.’

But others stuck by the dad, with one saying, ‘No one was dying or sick – I get the wife was stressed, but what do single parents do? They live through it – the trip was planned months ago and paid for.’

Only a splattering of people were on her side, despite the fact the mum shared her concerns in advance (very different from a solo parent trip when everyone is on board).

One caring commenter said: ‘I too had plenty of times I needed to take care of my baby alone, and yes I did manage, but no that doesn’t mean everyone can, or that it’s easy.’

‘OP’s [original posters] trip on the face of it doesn’t seem unreasonable, but it’s troubling to see so many people dumping on the wife for being anxious and wanting support. She sounds overwhelmed.’

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