Etiquette expert reveals the five most common dating mistakes that RICH people make – warning how over-the-top displays of wealth give potential partners the ‘ick’
- An etiquette expert reveals the biggest dating mistakes wealthy people make
- Myka Meier drew from her previous experiences to inform her list of no-nos
- Overcompensating by dressing in a flashy way is one error people should avoid
They say money can’t buy class.
And New York etiquette expert Myka Meier’s dating experiences are proof of that popular adage.
Drawing from her previous life as a single woman in the Big Apple, she has shared the five mistakes that wealthy people make that give potential love interests the ‘ick.’
Myka, who is founder of Beaumont Etiquette, revealed how the simple act of throwing down your car keys at the table to wearing ‘tacky’ logos on their clothes can be major turnoffs.
Read more about her top tips and why they’re big no-nos below.
Etiquette expert Myka Meier has shared the five mistakes wealthy people are making on dates
Put them away! Flashing car keys during a date screams insecurity
The first mistake Myka talks about in her YouTube video is when a wealthy person arrives for their date and throws down their car keys on the table ‘casually, like you didn’t know you were doing it.’
But the luxury brand is on display for everyone to see and the etiquette expert says they’re not fooling anyone.
‘Both people know perfectly well what they’re doing, they’re showing you that giant logo on the car key that says how money they have because they are driving that car,’ Myka says.
‘When I see this I see the word “insecurity” flash across the screen because it’s almost like [they] don’t have the confidence… to just have a wonderful conversation and attract you in that way with [their] brain and [their] intelligence.’
She added: ‘They’re probably attracting the wrong of person with that move anyway.’
Myka shared that this happened to her when she was on a date at an ‘amazing cocktail bar in Tribeca.’
She recalled she got there early, and when her date arrived he was wearing a black baseball cap (‘another no-no, just general dating etiquette, not to walk in with a hat’) and he ‘threw his Ferrari key on the bar right in front of me.’
‘It was almost like taking dice and rolling them in front of me, and it was the worst turnoff for me, that just ruined it, I almost laughed.’
The first mistake Myka lists is a wealthy person arriving for their date and throwing down their car keys on the table. She says it shows ‘insecurity’ (stock image)
Keep it closed! Don’t leave the bill open so your date can see how much you’re spending on them
It’s always good manners to offer to split the bill, Myka says, but when wealthy people offer to pay don’t showcase how much the meal will cost.
‘They take that credit card and they put it down and they wait for the server to come back over. Now that’s not a good look because they are intentionally allowing their date to see how much they spent on them,’ she explains.
‘And that’s a power play, it’s almost like: “Look how much money I just spent on you, you owe me… aren’t you impressed?”
‘Personally that doesn’t impress me at all, that kindness and generosity of that person impresses me, but I already can guess how much this meal costs, I don’t need you to make me feel guilty, or show me how much you spent on me.
‘I can actually afford it myself. I did offer after all, but I think… that is one big no-no, never let the date see the bill. You close that book, you would keep it to the side, whatever you have to do.’
Mom’s the word when it comes to money!
This next one, Myka says, is something she ‘constantly heard’ when she was dating and that is ‘talking money.’
‘I feel like I’m getting it all out of my system because I’ve seen it all… when I was dating, I saw the whole spectrum of people and from all over the world,’ she says.
‘I dated so many different types of people and really at the end of the day, this next one, I feel was just something I constantly heard.’
Don’t even think about it! The five mistakes wealthy people should NEVER make on a date
Myka continues: ‘Some of the wealthy people that I did date growing up in my 20s in New York City… it was one of those things where I would never express interest in their wealthy, I was attracted to them because they were outgoing, they were charismatic, they were the life of the party, they were adventurous.
‘But some of these people would think otherwise or would try to attract me further on a first date especially, they didn’t really get a second date because I was so turned off by this, but… they would throw out a number about what they spent on something, or what they made, or what their bonus was.’
Myka says she has dated rich people who have said they weren’t able buy a particular car that year, or they would brag it was bonus week and they couldn’t wait to spend it on a ski trip to Aspen.
‘Even saying things like, “Oh that’s so expensive or that’s so cheap.” Remember those are both relative terms… expensive to you might not be to me, or vice versa,’ Myka explains.
‘Opening the app and showing the real estate they plan to buy knowing perfectly well that number is on there as they pass their phone over to you to show you their new summer place in the Hamptons. It’s just too obvious.’
Myka warns if you find yourself attracted to this type of ‘peacocking’ person you need to think about why and be prepared that they could replace you ‘in a heartbeat.’
‘They can just choose the next person and drop you in 2.2 seconds,’ the etiquette expert says.
‘If your connection is about wealth and only wealth or because of their wealth, because of their success, that’s not the connection that’s going to be lasting, so be careful.’
Remember less is more! Don’t overcompensate by dressing in a ‘flashy’ way
Less is more, Myka says, and this mistake relates to a ‘very common’ mistake when it comes to wardrobe.
‘It’s overcompensating by dressing in a really flash way,’ she explains.
‘I think by now you all know how I feel about logos. I don’t like a lot of logos everywhere, it doesn’t matter how that designer brand appears or what you think about that designer brand.
‘If you’ve got logo, logo, logo, logo on everything you wear, to me again I just see that sign “insecurity” across the screen… they’re using those logos to try to pull you in and show you how much money they have.’
This overcompensation also applies to other areas.
Myka recalls going on a date with a guy at a ‘small sushi restaurant’ where food ‘didn’t really cost that much.’
She says she remembers sitting down and her date ordered ‘one of everything on the menu.’
And she says it ‘caught my attention,’ but not in a good way because she believed it was ‘wasteful.’
Avoid dressing in a flashy way with huge logos on display, Myka says (stock image)
There’s no need to brag! It’s ‘nasty’ and you should be suspicious
The last mistake is bragging to try and lure a person in, according to Myka.
‘People are attracted to modesty, people are attracted to generosity, but not bragging about how much you have,’ she says.
‘It makes that other person feel insecure, which maybe is their point, so I want you also watching [for] this, to recognize maybe that’s what they’re trying to do, and find your insecurity and try to show you what they have.’
Myka warns people not to get sucked in by a wealthy date’s bragging, and be cautious about what is and isn’t real.
‘The most refined, elegant, beautiful people that I know that have endless success, endless wealth are so understated, don’t talk at all about what they have, they don’t brag.
‘Bragging is a really nasty thing when you think about it, it’s making other people feel insecure about what… they do or don’t have.’
She continues: ‘It could be a façade, so be careful of that. Imagine someone bragging about that big mansion they just bought in the Cotswolds, in the south of France, we’re going to Saint Tropez to my beautiful home, maybe it’s not really their home. Maybe it’s their friend’s, maybe it’s their grandma’s, who knows?’
To conclude her video, Myka reminds people ‘you can have everything you are attracted to’ and not to rely on others to give you what you want.
‘I can say this as an entrepreneur, as a businesswoman, and as somebody who owns multiple companies. I have created my own life that I live and I’ve done it single-handedly,’ she says.
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