My ex-girlfriend expects sex on tap even though we’re no longer a couple.

I accuse her of being heartless. She tells me to get over myself. What’s casual sex amongst friends? When did I get so serious?

But I’m sick of being used. I love her and yearn for our old relationship.

News flash – it’s not all about sex for me. I long for company, laughs and shared experiences.

I miss going for walks and ­simply snuggling up.

We split last October after she accepted a major promotion at work. We weren’t seeing enough of each other because her job came first.

She accused me of attempting to hold her back, but it wasn’t like that.

I didn’t like being so far down her pecking list that I virtually fell off the bottom.

It broke my heart when I said: “Goodbye.”

But I still believe I did it for the right reasons.

Now she’s too busy for another relationship and assumes she can simply slip back between my sheets whenever she’s drunk, horny or simply passing.

I’m single and she can’t understand why I’m reluctant to get with her for “quickies” when we’re so good in the sack – but I have standards…

As far as I’m concerned, we’re ancient history, only she thinks that I should be on permanent standby.

The other night I was ­preparing for an early night when she rang to say that she was popping over.

I tried to put her off, but she talked over me.

She banged on the front door until I let her in. She had a bottle of wine in one hand and a pair of fluffy handcuffs in the other. I’m weak and I melted.

Yes, the resulting sex was ­phenomenal, but I hated myself the next day, especially when she texted to say that her boss was flying her out to Dubai for a ­luxury break for hitting her targets. Why am I such a sucker?

JANE SAYS: Your ex- girlfriend may be flying high at the moment – good for her – but she can’t have everything her own way.

Either she wants to be with you in a proper, full-time relationship or she doesn’t.

She can’t cherry pick the bits she likes – i.e. the sex – and not bother with everything else that comes with being with a partner.

You’ve got to break this hold she has over you, ­because she’s not the only woman in the world.

Start seeing her for the user she really is. Tell her that you refuse to be jerked around anymore.

Explain that you have to move on for the sake of your self-respect.

Emphasise that you’d like to make this final split an amicable and adult one.

The problem is that she views you as like an old pair of comfortable slippers.

How are you ever going to meet someone new when she’s still hanging around?

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