DEAR DEIDRE: I've been having “strictly fun" sex with a guy I met online but now he’s being posted abroad, should I tell him I love him?
I’m 28 and he’s in the military and 31.
We chatted online for weeks and then he was sent to a base ten miles away from me so we had an amazing three months together.
He’s big and fit with gorgeous eyes and there was an instant attraction.
We saw each other most nights and got on brilliantly.
He did say as he drove me home one night that he can’t offer any commitment because of his job and I agreed I was only looking for fun too.
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Still our relationship was intense and moved up a level pretty quickly. Sex with him is out of this world.
We have such an incredible connection and I understood why people talk about melting when they kiss someone they really like.
But he is being posted abroad next month and I’ve realised I’ve fallen for him.
I know there is something between us. He says he misses me and that he’s smitten..
When we’re together he tells me, “I’m going to make love to you now", and several times he’s made the 300-mile round trip to come to spend the night with me since he got moved to another base.
To me none of that is the way a f**k buddy behaves.
But I’m worrying like mad. He has given me his camp address in Germany so I can send him goodies and can email, but this is doing my head in.
I’m 100 percent in love with him but I’ve been hurt before. Should I tell him how I feel or keep schtum?
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DEIDRE SAYS: I agree he sounds like he cares for you a lot but some men are scared rigid of the L word.
He’s shown you how much he cares by how he behaves, not just words, and you can do the same.
Tell him you’ll miss him while he’s away and will keep in touch. Send him much appreciated goodies and chatty, affectionate emails.
He will probably appreciate that sort of support more than gushing love letters – and will understand that you care.
Maybe he will say he loves you while he’s out there but in your shoes I’d let him say it first.
I’m keeping my fingers crossed he does – please let me know!
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