DEAR DEIDRE: MY mum and stepdad were alcoholics, which affected my whole life, and now even though they are dead, there are still problems.
Mum died two years ago, my stepdad a year ago. I am the youngest of four sisters.
Now my siblings seem to have turned on me and caused me nothing but upset by cutting me out.
Mum was 69 and my stepdad 71 when they died.
I’m 29 and my sisters are 31, 34 and 35.
Even though I live only two houses away from my mum and stepdad’s house, my sisters refused to involve me with clearing out their home.
They didn’t tell me when their funerals were and one neighbour told me they’ve been bad-mouthing me for driving Mum and her husband to drink and an early grave.
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I didn’t always agree with Mum, but “drove her to her death”?
That can’t be true, can it?
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DEIDRE SAYS: I am sorry your sisters have cut you out and blame you for your mum and step-dad’s alcoholism.
Of course you are not to blame.
Your sisters will deep down know this but it’s far easier to blame you than your mum and stepdad.
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