DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband’s secret spending habit is driving a wedge between us.

I’m slowly losing trust in our relationship and I can’t understand why he won’t be upfront with me about it.

I’m 67, he’s 74 and we have been married for 40 years.

Until recently our relationship had been great. I had always valued my husband’s honesty. 

I encouraged him to take up some hobbies after he retired. 

But I didn’t expect him to start spending an obscene amount of money on them.

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Every day a new parcel would arrive at our door. Varying from cooking equipment to musical instruments. 

I’ve started finding hidden packages around the house.

When I confronted him about it he insisted I was being silly. 

The money isn’t my concern – it’s the secrets.

Why does he feel the need to hide this from me?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Many people struggle to adjust to retirement and perhaps your husband has filled the void that being busy professionally has left, with shopping.

Take the time to explain you feel the dynamics of your relationship have changed and you are worried about him being so secretive.

My support pack How To Look After Your Relationship will help you communicate better again.

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